Comments on: Why Getting My Workout Isn’t Working Out http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/ Where Current Events Aren't Clouded By Baby Powder Tue, 14 Oct 2008 13:19:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dana http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/#comment-26190 Dana Mon, 12 May 2008 02:56:11 +0000 http://thedanafiles.com/?p=853#comment-26190 That is great advice! Thank you! Usually I go during the day -- mid-afternoon and he's one of about 15 kids. Maybe that is overwhelming to him. I never thought of it that way. That is great advice! Thank you! Usually I go during the day — mid-afternoon and he’s one of about 15 kids. Maybe that is overwhelming to him. I never thought of it that way.

]]> By: Shannon http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/#comment-26189 Shannon Mon, 12 May 2008 02:34:09 +0000 http://thedanafiles.com/?p=853#comment-26189 This is definitely a challenging parenting issue. Both of my kids HATED those day care places. I tried and tried all sorts of ways to get them to deal with it and they never got any better. I finally realized that my kids simply don't like being around tons of people. It was overwhelming for them and they got no attention. I don't know what time of day you go, but if it's busy maybe you could try a quieter time of day and see if he feels less afraid? Shannons last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/phatmommy/~3/283889489/" rel="nofollow">Join the Baby Celebration (and Win Prizes)!</a> This is definitely a challenging parenting issue. Both of my kids HATED those day care places. I tried and tried all sorts of ways to get them to deal with it and they never got any better. I finally realized that my kids simply don’t like being around tons of people. It was overwhelming for them and they got no attention.

I don’t know what time of day you go, but if it’s busy maybe you could try a quieter time of day and see if he feels less afraid?

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]]> By: Dana http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/#comment-26163 Dana Thu, 08 May 2008 22:55:03 +0000 http://thedanafiles.com/?p=853#comment-26163 Thanks WHM and Roxanne! Great advice. I did warn the girls last time and they seemed perfectly capable of handling the situation - and one gal mentioned he was just really clingy the entire hour I was gone. Practice makes perfect I suppose. Thanks WHM and Roxanne! Great advice. I did warn the girls last time and they seemed perfectly capable of handling the situation - and one gal mentioned he was just really clingy the entire hour I was gone. Practice makes perfect I suppose.

]]> By: Roxanne http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/#comment-26162 Roxanne Thu, 08 May 2008 21:18:44 +0000 http://thedanafiles.com/?p=853#comment-26162 It may or may not be a fear of socializing. At his age, though, it's more likely to be a power trip. He knows that his actions can keep you from doing what you want to do. That's something that he can control. He knows that you will feel guilty if you leave a screaming preschooler in Adventure Alley, so he screams. Chances are, if you are firm with him, he will stop screaming once it becomes apparent that you are not going to run back there to get him. Don't make a big deal of it. Just take him to the daycare, tell him that you will see him after you are done, hug and kiss him, then walk away as if it's the most natural thing in the world. It will probably take a few sessions before he gets used to the routine, but hang in there, because it needs to be done. Not just for you, but for him, as well. I do recommend that you let the providers know that he may put up a fight at first. They have seen it all before, but it helps for them to know that you are aware of his anxiety. Good luck! Roxannes last blog post..<a href="http://ninebabies.blogspot.com/2008/05/weve-been-stimulated.html" rel="nofollow">We've been stimulated</a> It may or may not be a fear of socializing. At his age, though, it’s more likely to be a power trip. He knows that his actions can keep you from doing what you want to do. That’s something that he can control. He knows that you will feel guilty if you leave a screaming preschooler in Adventure Alley, so he screams. Chances are, if you are firm with him, he will stop screaming once it becomes apparent that you are not going to run back there to get him.

Don’t make a big deal of it. Just take him to the daycare, tell him that you will see him after you are done, hug and kiss him, then walk away as if it’s the most natural thing in the world. It will probably take a few sessions before he gets used to the routine, but hang in there, because it needs to be done. Not just for you, but for him, as well.

I do recommend that you let the providers know that he may put up a fight at first. They have seen it all before, but it helps for them to know that you are aware of his anxiety.

Good luck!

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]]> By: White Hot Magik http://thedanafiles.com/2008/05/08/why-getting-my-workout-isnt-working-out/#comment-26156 White Hot Magik Thu, 08 May 2008 19:41:47 +0000 http://thedanafiles.com/?p=853#comment-26156 Is he okay when you go back to get him? I know from working in the nursery in church, the kids often fuss when mommy leaves but get over it soon after. While there could be a legit problem, he probably just would prefer to be with you. I always hang out a bit too just to know what the routines are, chat with the teachers, see what is going on so they feel more confident and my kids and I can talk about it and the other kids to encourage them making friends. White Hot Magiks last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/WhiteHotMagik/~3/286104398/more-hummingbird-jewelry.html" rel="nofollow">More Hummingbird Jewelry</a> Is he okay when you go back to get him? I know from working in the nursery in church, the kids often fuss when mommy leaves but get over it soon after. While there could be a legit problem, he probably just would prefer to be with you. I always hang out a bit too just to know what the routines are, chat with the teachers, see what is going on so they feel more confident and my kids and I can talk about it and the other kids to encourage them making friends.

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