April 15, 2008
On Being Domestic
When it comes to domestic duty partnership, I’m a pretty lucky gal. I married a man that loves to cook (therefore I rarely have to), he doesn’t mind cleaning the house (because he suffers from OCD and can’t sit still), does the dishes whenever he feels like it (because he can’t stand to leave them in the sink), thoroughly enjoys doing laundry (because he washes all his clothes after wearing them once) and he considers yard work his “therapy” to unwind from his busy work days (so I never have to mow the lawn or weed the garden).
Okay, so maybe I’m spoiled. Just a little. At least I’m able to admit it. I married a rare breed and I know it. Most of my gal pals tell me their partners rarely lift a finger around the house and none of these men can really cook let alone put a load of laundry in the wash.
However, once I became a work-at-home-mom, my Queen Mum status flew right out the window. Now I’m Queen of the Vacuum and the Daily Doer of Dishes.
I’m not complaining. I have more time to complete these tasks now that I don’t spend 8 hours of my day in a fluorescent-lighted office across town.
Doug still does the cooking because, let’s face it, as a former line cook, he’s better at it. And he likes to do it. But my only complaint is the freakin’ mess he makes in the kitchen. The mess that I clean up. I don’t mind, because I’d rather do dishes than burn dinner. But why do men use ten times more kitchen gadgets than women?
When I cook, I use as little as possible, often drawing a sink filled with soapy water so that I can wash things as I go. But Doug? No. He makes the biggest mess with pans and knives and cutting boards and measuring cups scattered all over the counters.
Am I just being picky? Or do all men do this?
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April 15th, 2008 at 8:17 PM, mammacheryl Says:
I don’t know about all men, but my husband does this and it drives me nuts. He forgets that when he cooks, he makes a whole mess for me to clean up. And how sweet it is when he makes himself breakfast in the morning? Yeah. I’d rather he microwave oatmeal than dirty a skillet, spatula, plate, etc. I do the soapy water thing as well. It’s so much easier to wash as I cook.
April 15th, 2008 at 8:24 PM, sassymonkey Says:
lol. I’m the one that does that around here. But I also don’t do the dishes. The boy likes it and thinks dishwashers are useless (that’s right, he washes them by hand) so I tell him to go at it. He also cleans the bathroom. And at least half the laundry. And does the recycling. And takes out the garbage.
Yeah, I’m pretty spoiled too.
April 15th, 2008 at 8:24 PM, Dana Says:
Oh girl! So true! Doug fries himself eggs every morning and then I have a greasy pan to clean every day. I hate that!
sassymonkey, nothing wrong with being spoiled. I kind of like it, myself!
April 16th, 2008 at 7:01 AM, Assertagirl Says:
I think the keyword there is “gadget.” Men love their gadgets, whether they’re for cooking, fixing, building or what-have-you. And if you see that he’s using all the gadgets, then he must be working HARD at making that dinner!
April 16th, 2008 at 8:53 AM, Liz Says:
Huh, and here my husband has been telling me, “You’re doing it wrong,” for years!
No, you’re not being picky – especially, since you gave Doug props AND rigt in the first sentence, too.